Anna Ellington - “Pharrah13″

People are always asking me…”why is it so hard to get time in a reading?”…and there are many reasons for this.

This is my own belief and may not agree with other readers, but over the years I have noticed some things regarding timing.

First and foremost I believe everything happens ‘for a reason’ and this reason is usually to further our growth as Spiritual beings and as humans. It is usually the things that most concern us and that we HOPE for are also the things we have huge ‘fears’ about not receiving or accomplishing.

When people search out and consult a ‘reader’ they are usually asking about people and events that represent their wishes and dreams. As a result, they usually have a lot of fear and dread that they will not get their ‘heart’s desires’.

Any good psychic should be able to tune in to your higher self and guides and give you what you NEED to know regarding your questions. You will NOT always get the answers as sometimes I believe we are just not MEANT to know certain outcomes but can only get ‘probabilities’. In fact I believe that most ‘readings’ are NEVER a guaranteed outcome, but will be brought about if it is IS for the utmost growth and learning.

Whoever coined the phrase “timing is everything” should be a rich person. So many times when I am reading people, and they are hitting tough energy, too often the immediate impulse is to become fearful and climb back into old patterns and thinking.

Too often we expect miracles and good to come on our time schedule. When the truth is that timing is in the hands of the universe, and how we respond to the universe. How we align ourselves as whole and complete beings often dictates how quickly or painlessly we will get to our desired destination.

Whoever coined the phrase “it’s the journey not the destination” should also be rich. You will notice even in the smallest of instances, a board game for instance. You play the game with your opponent, struggle, have ups and downs, and eventually one of you wins. If you win, for a few moments you have a sense of elation and gratification, but that gratification quickly dissipates. The true gratification really grew from the process it took you to win the game. Matching wits, or devising strategies, valuing your contribution and how you managed the process to get to a “win” afforded you that moment of gratification.

The work it takes to get you to a “win” affords you real soul food, the stuff that elevates your energy permanently. If you walked away with a trophy that required no work you would find that trophy left you feeling empty.

The same parallel is true in life. If we got everything we wanted in life, in the time frame we wanted it to come, without really doing the work that it took to elevate our energy, the “wins”, the “gains” and the “prosperity” would feel very empty to us, leaving us as empty cavities. Bodies walking around with no souls.

So as you go through your growth periods, and your confusions and worries, remember that they too are temporary, and there is much to be gained by flexing your emotional and mental muscles to sustain yourself during times of doubt. This is the good stuff. Times rich with opportunity for deepening your soul’s awareness. Then, when the “timing” is right, and when that particular “journey” is through, you will have your good. Don’t be greedy, and don’t second guess the universe. Learn to fine-tune your pace to a pace you can keep with the universe and the laws of nature. Then, you will feel that life is on your side and that you will know how to get what you want and go where you want to go in a time frame that feels right to you…remember… “God’s delays are not not God’s denials.”

I have another article on timing that is complimentary to this one. Also Please read ” The Waiting Game “. It may better help you understand why timing of events are a perfectly synchronized chain of occurrences…

Ok, so you are at a point where it seems none of the predictions given to you are happening. You are experiencing anxiety over delays in time frames coming to pass for you with your readings. You are feeling as if your reader or in some instances, your readers have let you down. You continually call back only to discover that the time frame as been moved to yet more WAITING!!

I want people to really GET this and understand it, please!!! More often than not, WE cause these delays ourselves! Yes, that may sound like such a simple easy answer to give, but unfortunately, I MYSELF [yep, and I am a reader too, go figure!] have been shown this and had it proven to me over and over. Yes, we can cause the delays all by ourselves simply by focusing on the situation/problem/relationship/whatever. too much!!!! Sometimes we want something so badly and want to control the outcomes so desperately, that we do not ‘let go and let God/Goddess/Universal energy’ work the magic. WE cause our own outcomes to be delayed.

Let me try and explain it to you in simple terms. ALL things both seen and unseen are energy. I think this has been scientifically proven well enough to be believable even if many other concepts are not. Our thoughts are energy. Every single thought we have is a piece of energy. It has a real and tangible effect on our universe. It is said that positive thoughts create positive results and vice versa for negative thoughts. Think about this. It is human nature to fear getting what it is we usually most want! I don’t care how positive a person is, there is always that little hint of fear!

Now example: ‘Psychic so&so’ has told ‘Mary so&so’ that ’such&such’ will happen 3 weeks from now….GREAT, WONDERFUL. FANTASTIC!!!! So Mary happily goes along THINKING about this CONSTANTLY. In her head she is saying. “this will happen in 3 weeks…2 weeks 6 days…2 weeks 5 days and counting!! BUT, along with that thought is this other little human things that comes with it…”I want to believe psychic so&so, and I DO believe psychic so& so, but what IF they are wrong???..what if it won’t happen… what if, WHAT IF?..and there it goes…the conflicting energies you are sending out with your THOUGHTS!!!…”yes I want it…yes I believe it, yes I feel it, yes, I see, it…BUT, BUT, BUT.I call this fear and faith syndrome …and so 3 weeks goes by and you have consistently and constantly thought about nothing else but that 3 week time frame and what may or may not happen…OH…and damn that psychic so&so if they are wrong, by the way!!!..:-)

and guess what?…NOTHING HAPPENS…you are still sitting there on your booty waiting for something and ready to call that ‘psychic so&so’ again!!!….frustrated, confused, angry, (notice all the negative emotions?) because nothing happened. I can almost guarantee you calling ‘reader so&so’ will only get you basically the SAME READING you spent lots of money on 3 weeks prior!…do you get the picture?

The other thing that you need to understand about ‘energy’. When you are focusing on any one particular person, I can guarantee you that person is receiving that energy on some level!!!!…they may not be consciously aware of it, but it is there. If someone has broken off with you because they tell you they need time to think, then LISTEN to them and respect that!…this means NOT sitting there and focusing your thoughts on “please come back, I love you.”…you may no longer be a physical force in their life, but your energy is still very there with them, they will feel it and CONTINUE to try and force you to give them space by keeping their distance.

I consistently and continually tell clients.. LET GO!!!..and when I say let go, I mean LET GO!!!…I know this is the singular HARDEST thing to do because there is such a FEAR with that. How do I personally know???…I HAVE been there myself!! There is that huge and looming fear…”if I let go and forget about them and start living my life again every day, they will do the same”….well OK!…here is a silly question to ask yourself…IF they choose to do that, then are they really WORTH it in the first place??…if their feelings are THAT shallow and they can just forget about you and move right on out the door and on with their lives, then obviously there was never much there in the first place?????…..I know simple questions, but honestly, the simple questions usually get the most profound answers!

So….you are asking for a reading because you want ’so&so’ back in your life. OK, fine. Now you have been told that he/she is taking time for themselves to think, reassess, reflect, in other words taking time for THEMSELVES to sort out their life. Now another silly question to ask yourself but…if they are doing that, why in heaven’s name are you not using this time to DO THE SAME FOR YOURSELF?? Use the time to reflect on how the relationship degenerated to the state where it is. Ask yourself, what was MY part in this?…What can I do RIGHT NOW to make positive changes, NOT ONLY for him/her, but for MYSELF? Are you not important and valuable enough in the relationship to reassess YOUR NEEDS? Please think about these things…

Start with a goal, an idea a thought, and then you go about finding ways to MAKE it happen, you don’t just sit there and think about it. Get up and DO something. anything.  but things that will bring you some kind of peace and happiness and joy. EACH AND EVERY DAY. you cannot sit there and wait for things to fall into your lap or wait until all of your reading just miraculously comes true. I cannot speak for any other reader, but I feel that my readings come from Spirit and your Higher self. That place does not know TIME. They only see your path and potential and they give the information based on the idea that you are constantly working towards your own personal growth each and every day. The only person we can fault for positive and good things not coming into our lives is OUR SELF. Not some reader, or lover, or child, or friend, or job, or boss or WHO EVER and what ever!…I am sorry, but WE are the masters of our own fate, NO one else.

I have put literally hundreds of hours of my time into this web site. I am the world’s slowest typist and this site has been and is a LABOR of love! It is my personal way of trying to help people without anyone having to pay. I am not paid anything for this, in fact I pay to have it hosted, so please take advantage of it!!!…USE this site as best you can to get some ideas on how to better yourself. Go to my recommended reading page. Those books are some of the most valuable tools I have EVER found for my own personal growth. Please take the money you would spend on even just one psychic reading and invest it in a book instead! This is one GUARANTEE I can make. They will HELP YOU!!! The right books will inform, enlighten and enhance you!

Finally, yeah, I am long winded, be thankful I don’t keep you on a call with all this stuff!!!…:-) I am by no means an authority on how to live the perfect life and don’t even pretend to be. I have as many problems as anyone else, I am sure. But I have learned some very valuable lessons along the way and one of the HUGEST ones is?…STOP DWELLING on anything you have no CONTROL OVER and focus that energy on the things you CAN control!!!